I’m so done with staring at photos of really attractive women I’ll never meet on the internet.
Holy crap! Who’s that? She’s [insert dramatic, booming and echoing announcer voice] TOO ATTRACTIVE FOR HER OWN GOOD…
So, girl from pof that I’ve been talking to and hanging out with; I was talking to her last night about relationship-type-things, and it turns out she likes to know a guy for a while (like a month or two) before she starts dating him. And actually that’s a big relief to me because it means there’s no pressure for me to get touchy-feely with her before I feel comfortable doing so. (When I’m hanging out with a new girl, I’m always worried that maybe she expects me to touch her and stuff, and she’ll lose interest in me if I don’t start doing things like that in a timely manner.)
I mean, who knows if I’ll ever get to be touchy-feely with this girl at all. It might not work out. But, at least I know I can take my time with the whole thing; and that alone makes me feel more comfortable.
There are two ways to start a relationship: You can get romantically involved with someone before, or after you’ve gotten to know them really well. Heartbreak is a lot more likely with the first way, but, it brings you physical pleasure sooner.
It’s a matter of instant versus delayed gratification.
So, I seem to have a thing for androgynous looking girls (and just to clarify, I don’t mean butch; I mean like, short-haired and thin and non-curvy). Androgynous looking guys do not interest me; I guess I like vaginas too much …and boobs, even if they’re really small …and the female mind, even if it drives me up the wall sometimes.
There’s probably a deep psychological reason why I like boyish girls, but I couldn’t really tell you what it would be.
Maybe it’s partially because my mom has always worn the pants in her relationship with my dad.
Maybe it’s partially because I’m thin and almost have a feminine physique (minus my wide shoulders).
Maybe it’s chemical. Like, my testosterone and estrogen levels are closer to being balanced than they are in most guys, so I’m just naturally attracted to females who are kinda the same way.
I dunno. But there it is.
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When talking to a girl, should I try to act confident, even though I don’t feel confident? The problem with that is, it’s dishonest, both to myself and the girl, and that dishonesty makes me feel uncomfortable, and I think that discomfort is perceptible.
Should I act normal/the way I feel (unconfident)? The problem with that is, lack of confidence is not attractive.
It seems like a lose-lose situation to me and I don’t know what to do. Any words of advice?